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8 Simple Tips for Applying the Law of Attraction to Meet New People & Open Up to Opportunity

What is the law of attraction? It’s a topic with a lot to talk about, a lot shrouded in mystery or stereotype, and unfortunately a lot of BS surrounding it, but it can actually be very simple. With practical tips and examples, this article will seek to better define how you can intuitively approach the law of attraction and use it to your advantage whenever you want to.

Writing this, I’ve just arrived in Arizona for the summer for an intensive language program, and am aiming to keep these ideas in mind as I am learning, interacting, and living in an exciting new environment. At the end of this article is a quick talky blog I recorded last night that shares some of my thoughts on my experience thus far and how I am living the life of my dreams and endlessly grateful for it. (You can follow my journey at my blog, Uzbek Brian, but let’s continue for now.)

In a nutshell, the law of attraction is a mindset shift. It’s a tool you can use to reframe your direction to start “thinking about what you want to bring about”, whether in terms of health, money, love, friendship, work, or wherever else. The law of attraction is empowering because it rejoices in the fact that the universe is entirely in your favor, always mirroring back the same energy you send out.

Honestly it’s just a way of verbalizing that YOU are in the driver’s seat and only you, and that what you focus on grows and affects your life. Accepting it is really a revelation that can drive inspiringly huge amounts of success and gratitude in any area.

If you want to move forward, enjoy yourself, and remove even the need for “shoulds”, fears, hate, and other unproductive modes of being, this article is for you! Plus, whether you like it or not, this principle is at work right now, so better to choose to master it than let it create confusion and a victim mindset based on “luck” or “fate”. So that I don’t completely blow your mind, here are some real, regular tips that I’ve amassed that have helped me and may help you too. :)

Part 1: Prepare Yourself to Accept Opportunity

#1: Start your day with an affirmation of your choice.

This affects your social dynamics hugely! Many people do not like or do not have time to map out every bit of their day, and that is understandable. But in taking advantage of the law of attraction, you don’t have to do tons of work or stick to a strange and unappealing routine.

Simply start your day with an intention. State it in the positive, in the present (the here and now), and make it specific enough that it lets you take action, but not so much that it locks you in. Random example: “Today, I choose to work on my health and relationships. I’ll exercise outside, get in contact with friends, and treat myself to food that is rewarding and nourishing for my body.

#2: Cool interests are great conversation pieces.

Spend “you” time doing some thing YOU like, no matter what other people think, and work on developing that interest. This may or may not involve meeting new people, but it doesn’t matter, because you’ll have this in your toolbox when you want to call upon it.

This way when you are meeting someone, you can give them a taste of your passion and direction in a friendly, non-confrontational way, and then learn what makes them tick too! Plus, focusing on being involved and engaged will help you attract that same energy.

#3: Take care of yourself.

Eat healthy, exercise, and groom yourself, and you’ll look good even if you don’t (even though you already do, because everyone is beautiful anyway, but still). More tips at the linked text for this tip. You will feel so much more ready to jump towards that high vibe and enjoy others’ company when you take good care of what you need to do.

#4: Body language and placement are everything.

Example: Here at the ASU campus during my time between class, I have a many options of where I could go. But what it comes down to is this: I’m either outside and amidst classmates and other people to meet, or I’m in my room where no one can see or meet me. Surely we need time to recharge and work alone sometimes. But if you want to attract new experiences and people into your life, you will not get far with staying cooped up or looking too busy or uninterested to approach.

This has already worked for me and I’m grateful for taking that little bit of extra energy to put myself out there. Specific strategies that have proven to be effective: sit in a pleasant public area to work, get to class early to chat, add people online in advance, don’t look closed up with headphones or intense business all the time, and much more.

Part 2: Making it (1) Happen, (2) Matter, and (3) Last

#5: Go and say hi.

This might seem like a given, but it’s an important start, especially if you have an introverted preference or have any type of mental blockage keeping you from meeting new people (if you want to). Just go introduce yourself! Name, job, family, location, interests and other simple stuff. What is the absolute worst that could happen? Your first conversation with someone can just be that and it’s okay.

In fact, it’s a great start, because next time you will have had that “pre-info” and “who are you?” or “can I even say hi to that person?” stuff out of the way. If you never initiate contact, you are not taking action and will have more difficulty attracting fun and meaningful relationships.

#6: Just be nice!

Kindness is such an important value. You don’t have to be the richest, smartest, prettiest person every single minute of every day. Keep working at it, and don’t limit yourself, but when you are meeting new people, it is good to take a deep breath and just be nice, instead of smart-ass.

This is one major tip I try to focus on because I have a tendency to let my intensity get the best of me and lose sight of core social values even if my intentions are not bad. A kind person will always attract better things into their life than someone shrouded in misery. Many people may find themselves in this situation, so place extra concentration on modulating this factor when meeting new people.

#7: Eliminate energies which do not lift you up.

There is no reason to feel obligated to tend to the things in your life that hold you back, because they are obviously not working anyway, and some space from them might be beneficial. Whether that be people, actions, habits, places, or ideas you are involved with, take a minute to critically consider the sources which directly influence your thoughts (and hence, your world). To learn more, check out my article How to Identify People Who You Hold You Back Instead of Lift You Up.

#8: Have boundless gratitude.

People do care about you even if they do not always outwardly show it. Most everyone has at least one person in their life who they owe so much to and can share mutual gratitude with to align well with good family relations.

Doesn’t matter who it is: related or unrelated, boy or girl, old or young, and so on. Family and friends are the people who truly care and connect with you, and focusing on giving thanks to these people is so much more fulfilling than picking at flaws, perpetuating arguments, or be untrue or having hidden agendas.

All in all, be the container for the content and people you want to fill your life with. That’s the idea! Much more tips and tricks coming your way here at Brian on Health. From personal development to physical health, I am here as an open book to document and share what is and is not working for me, and how that might play into your unique circumstances. Please subscribe if you are enjoying what you see, and leave me a comment below. I genuinely want to know what you think, bad or good!

Brian Greco

P.S. Here’s that vlog from my Uzbek language channel if you want to check it out:

Question of the day: What tips do you use for meeting people or trying new things?


How to Identify People Who Hold You Back Instead of Lift You Up

I have dealt with a lot of different types of people even in my short time on this planet, and I’m sure you have too. Though we alone are in the driver’s seat with our own lives, the people around us can make or break our daily reality, so it is important that we tend to our friendships and relationships in order to open up to opportunity and set up for success.

The scene is familiar: some people are a pure joy to be around, and bring a smile to your face and a lift to your mood without the slightest ounce of effort. Others may not act in a particularly extroverted way, but they still are warm, genuine people, and your relationship is mutually positive. However, there are other people who unfortunately not this way.

What are the signs of an unhealthy friendship or relationship? The first step towards cleaning house when it comes to people is to identify suppressive ones. This may sound harsh, but it is not intended to be so. It’s not about dividing people up or labeling permanently, it’s about being true with yourself and how you feel about those in your life.

This is sort of a serious topic, so it calls for the release of negative thoughts. I really don’t favor phrasing things in the negative sense most of the time, but I find it is the only clear way to communicate these characteristics. Sometimes the most direct way of saying something is that which is most radically honest, and hence most helpful! Let’s take a look.

21 Signs of Suppressive People Who Hold You Back

IN THOUGHTS

#1: They are dogmatic. Unable to see beyond rules, they grip closely on doctrine.

#2: They are argumentative. They can’t agree to disagree. They don’t discuss, they attack.

#3: They are uninterested. They never take the time to hear what you care about or like.

#4: They are disconnected. They do not choose to perceive and to understand their world.

#5: They are unoriginal. They copy ideas and take credit without contributing new things.

#6: They are fear-mongerers. They are addicted to seeking hype, conspiracy, or evils.

#7: They are codependent. Instead of thinking for themselves, they rely on validation.

IN FRIENDSHIP

#8: They are conditional. Your friendship with them rests solely on flimsy criteria.

#9: They are personal. Their opinions hinge on attacking who you are as a person.

#10: They are phony. You know in your heart they lie or don’t really care about you.

#11: They are delusional. They have a warped view of themselves, others, and their world.

#12: They are oppressive. They operate by making fun of you or pointing out your flaws.

#13: They are absent. They ignore NOW or the real world, always looking for escapisms.

#14: They are faithless. They distance themselves from beauty, love, and god.*

IN OUTLOOK

#15: They are naysayers. Their energies are destructive in the world, not inspiring.

#16: They are pessimistic. They expect the worst and focus on what is bad around them.

#17: They are victims. The world somehow conspires against them. They blame or project.

#18: They are ungrounded. They fear consolidating firmness on any issue or belief.

#19: They are snooping. They pry into you and your life to break you down step by step.

#20: They are unhealthy. They don’t take care of themselves or others (make bad choices).

#21: They are ungrateful. They are seriously spoiled, failing to see how good things are.

Have you met people like this? I sure have, and it’s time to let them go. As I wrote in my first post at the new website, my rule these days is to eliminate anyone who doesn’t appreciate me like I appreciate them, and instead focus on true blue friends. There are 7 billion people in this world. I don’t need to waste my time on those that bring me down instead of lift me up, and you shouldn’t either!

Here are some strategies I came up with for making that shift happen.

8 Tips for Purging Destructive Energies from Your Life

#1: First, identify problem areas. What holds you back the most right now? Tackle that.

#2: Choose to stop giving your time and energy to suppressive people. Key word: choose.

#3: Have compassion. Everyone is at a different step, so be aware of how you act.

#4: Forgive. We all need time to figure things out, so believe in second chances and change.

#5: Be respectful. When in doubt, take people at face value and honor their opinions.

#6: Go offline. Facebook can be a worst offender for perpetuating misery. Go for a walk.

#7: Move yourself. You may need to physically move your location. Exercise helps too.

#8: Ready, fire, aim. Worry can emotionally paralyze you. Sometimes, just DO!

To close, here is a cool image by some inspiring friends, the RawBrahs:

Note: If you are concerned about lettings things go, it’s okay. Sometimes caring people truly desire to be freed of unproductive relationships, but may be “too nice” and worry that not working to fix what is broken will actually create problems. I have thought along this wavelength at many points in my life, and can tell you it isn’t worth it!

Take a bucket of water out of the ocean, and that hole does not stay empty, it quickly fills with fresh water. Same thing with people. When you exuberate good things, energized by your surroundings, the domino effect comes into play entirely in the right direction. Don’t worry about tending to what isn’t working. This phenomenon will surprisingly ring true.

Question of the day: What has worked for you so far to welcome in better energy?

* I am not necessarily referring to a specific religion, but rather having any sense of appreciation for the divinity of the world, humans, happiness, nature, and so on. Thanks!

Learn more: Here is a quick <1 min helpful video on this topic by Wendi Blum. Cool!


How to Look Good Even If You Don’t

Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. But let’s be real: There are certain standards you should hold yourself to if you want to be productive in society. Whether you like it or not, people judge by appearance. Take some time to wallow over that idea, and when you get over it, join me as we work together with these 10 steps to a better you.

Note: This is all advice I aim to follow myself, that’s why I’m sharing it with you!

First, you must accept that you will not make an impression on people if you do not have any LUCK, and by that I mean Labor Under Correct Knowledge. There is no such thing as overnight success or a pill you can take to look great, but there are still many things you can do to look and feel your best every day from this moment on.

Start with your body. Stand naked in front of a mirror. If you’re not impressed with what you see, time to get to work! Always accept yourself, but don’t settle for less than you deserve as an excuse to be lazy. Looking good naked means feeling happier, healthier and more confident about yourself. Don’t let anyone tell you that’s not true.

To get going, at least walk at a brisk pace for 30 minutes per day around your neighborhood. This is something I do almost every day. Grab your iPod and sneakers, put on a good song, and take some time to collect your thoughts and get your body moving. From here, move on to running. I know, it sucks! But try at least a mile or two at 5-7 mph every day. Or, try cycling outside, or start up with yoga.

When you go overboard with exercise, at best you won’t stick with it, and at worst you’ll injure yourself. Sad but true, consistency is what really matters when it comes to fitness. You are better off exercising a little bit every day and building up from there rather than over-exerting yourself once a week in attempt to be competitive or look like a magazine model.

As you’re working out, remember that every minute you invest in your personal fitness is another drop in the bucket towards a healthier, more attractive new you. There is nothing wrong with shameless vanity if it motivates you to get active. Picture what you want to look like and then write down specific goals to approach your ideal. Think: in just a few months your body will be looking better than ever.

Now let’s talk about your diet, another important aspect of health. This is a topic for a whole other article, but here are some basic tips that I’m sure you know already but may or may not actually apply in your life. You would be surprised how much food affects how you look, feel, think, exercise, study, work, and interact with other people.

Number one most effective step: Cut the crap! Stop eating the things that you don’t need to be told are unhealthy, and then work from there. Random examples: soda, french fries, cookies, chips, greasy food, processed meats, and so on. It is hard to let them go at first, but when you fill up on what your body needs, junk food cravings soon fade.

Bypass the need for diet scams, pills, tricks, gimmicks, and supplements and start eating the real food that has produced the strongest, most fit people for centuries. That means lots of fruits, vegetables and high quality sources of proteins and fats. Don’t forget to drink enough water too! Keep a water bottle with you and always start the morning with water. This is nutrition in a nutshell.

Next step is basic hygiene, people. I say this because I care and want to remind people that simple cleanliness is a huge part of looking good. You don’t have to look like Taylor Lautner or Megan Fox, but you do have to keep yourself groomed. Seriously, if most people just did these baseline things, a lot of relationship and self-esteem problems would disappear.

Brush your teeth at least two times a day and aim for two minutes. Forget fancy products, just get a good electric or regular toothbrush and do it. It matters how well you brush, not what brand of toothpaste you’re using. Floss before bed to get out pieces of food, strengthen your gums, and work towards whiter teeth (it works). If you really have bad breath, use mouthwash. No one likes bad breath.

Get your hair in order, because hair is an important, noticeable, and manageable way to make your appearance appealing. Take a shower every day or at least every other day and use a good shampoo and conditioner to keep your hair looking moisturized but not greasy. When you get out of the shower or get up in the morning, comb your hair so you look like you actually cared to check the mirror before entering the public. These things are straightforward but so often overlooked.

Go to a stylist and ask for tips on getting a nice haircut that suits your style and facial shape. Smooth and classic goes a long way! It’s fun to experiment with weird hairstyles, but my recommendation (after having long hair as a guy for two years) is to just play along with society and save expression for more valuable outlets if you want to attract friends, relationships, money and influence people in a positive way. I’m just being honest here.

Lastly, some miscellaneous tasks to tend to. First off, wear deodorant if you sweat a lot. You could be the nicest one on the block or in your school or workplace but no one will go near you if you smell. Next, clean your nails and keep them cut at a godly length (no nail biting or ridiculous manicures). And finally, work on clear skin with gentle washing, healthy diet, and an acne product if you need it. This is one of my biggest struggles too, so I place priority on it and keep in mind that clear skins means confidence.

Looking good so far! Now to clothe yourself with some clean stuff that FITS YOU. You don’t have to go over the top: a t-shirt, hoodie, and a good pair of jeans and shoes always works in casual settings, and standard Western business attire or “church” clothing will work for more formal events. Clothes really make a huge difference in how you feel about yourself. Keep to your style, but when in doubt, classic works!

There’s much more to say, but to save time and cut to the punchline, people skills are what really matters. When you exuberate a positive impression to the world, people are more likely to like you, listen to you, hire you, work with you, date you, and more. Simple common sense and wisdom on dealing with other people is what holds the test of time.

At the very least, don’t do damaging things. Even if you are not the most suave or intelligent person, it only takes a free, conscious choice to NOT do and say stupid things to people. Just like avoiding the junk food, often the most worthwhile method for personal success is to do no harm. So that means: don’t be rude, don’t make fun of people, and don’t try to “act cool” to get where you want to be.

Give compliments that aren’t overboard. Examples: Hey, I love your outfit, where’d you get it? Hey, your hair looks great! Hey, great job on your presentation today! Hey, I just wanted to say I really am happy to be your friend. Hey, thank you for your support and for being a great listener. Hey, you know, you are really a breath of fresh air! Hey, I think you’re a great person and am honored to know you. Easy, effective, and friendly.

When you talk to someone, look them in the eye and forego all sarcastic or superior tones. We are all guilty of it at times, and it’s fun with friends and family sometimes, but really no one likes “that guy” or “that girl” who always has a snide remark up their sleeve.

And always stand up straight with your two feet on the ground, avoid slouching when you sit in a chair, and project yourself so people can hear you. You’re better off being made fun of for being too loud and confident than being too timid to hear! We want to know what you have to say, but maybe we just can’t hear you!

Last but not least, smile. Better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. When you smile, you tell everyone: I am happy with who I am and am happy to be here with you. Let’s have a great time and work together for a healthier, more passionate world. I hope this has inspired you to keep up the good work and continue moving forward with your dreams! Stay strong!

Brian Greco

Bonus tip: When you take photos, be graceful. The photos that get the most likes on Facebook are the ones that show the natural beauty and happiness of you or your friends and family. Duck faces, weird poses, and hand signals just make you look like an idiot. And plus, you won’t need them anymore when you work on your fitness, style, and smile!

Stay tuned for my next advice article: 10 Doable Steps for Getting Your Shit Together Today

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Question of the day: What other tips do you have for being your best you?